Find the best financial services for you at: SMARTFINANCESOLUTIONS.NET - Need help with my life...? - Well Basically my fiance and i split households. she was living with me and my parents. we had 3 car accidents in our life and i was always the driver...the first one our boss made us work 22 hours straight, i fell asleep at the wheel. my fiance almost lost her life and had to claim bankruptcy later on in life. the second accident i hit a light post, no damage caused besides the car repairs being beyond the worth of the car. the third accident i was driving down the expressway and a deer pranced onto the road and collided with the car. we were going 65 mph, all we needed to replace was the hood and a headlight (lucky.)
so now since I'm done with the intros here i go...
so we argued about if the deer accident was my fault or not and it got out of hand. she moved out and i agreed to it that we needed space... so she drops me off at work and drives her car (previously both our car) and decides to do something. she decides to lie to me and says she hanged out with her friend in fact she just went to a guys house for a 4th of July party. this guy used to like her but she never liked him. she got pretty drunk and drove home a little drunk too....i know she wouldn't cheat on me, she tells me everyday when we talk how much she loves me and how much she wants to see things get through. her friend has basically been there to help her out with issues in the past like her abusive mom and other problems. i tried to explain to her how she shouldn't go to this guys house without me because he is most vulnerable, due to him breaking up with his fiance recently. so she finally agrees that she will let me know if he is holding another party and if she wants to go. one day she is completely affectionate towards me the next day she is very distant from me. whenever i ask to spend the night she comes up with a variety of reasons why i shouldn't. she refuses to make love with me, french kiss me, and just recently last night she wouldn't even let me sleep on the couch with her! so yeah i found out that her friend was having a bonfire and she didn't even let me know about it! I'm at wits end here, i love her so much and she loves me so much. our trust for each other is just so low....what can i do to improve our relationship again?
a side note: i feel like im at a dead end
if i show affection a few days later she doesn't want anything to do with me and says im pestering her. -
