Until thy feet have trod the Road 
Advise not wayside folk, 
Nor till thy back has borne the Load 
Break in upon the broke. 
 
Chase not with undesired largesse 
Of sympathy the heart 
Which, knowing her own bitterness, 
Presumes to dwell apart. 
 
Employ not that glad hand to raise 
The God-forgotten head 
To Heaven and all the neighbours' gaze-- 
Cover thy mouth instead. 
 
The quivering chin, the bitten lip, 
The cold and sweating brow, 
Later may yearn for fellowship-- 
Not now, you ass, not now! 
 
Time, not thy ne'er so timely speech, 
Life, not thy views thereon, 
Shall furnish or deny to each 
His consolation. 
 
Or, if impelled to interfere 
Exhort, uplift, advise, 
Lend not a base, betraying ear 
To all the victim's cries. 
 
Only the Lord can understand 
When those first pangs begin, 
How much is reflex action and 
How much is really sin. 
 
E'en from good words thyself refrain, 
And tremblingly admit 
There is no anodyne for pain 
Except the shock of it. 
 
So, when thine own dark hour shall fall, 
Unchallenged canst thou say: 
"I never worried you at all, 
For God's sake go away!"
Rudyard Kipling
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