Hate is only one of many responses 
true, hurt and hate go hand in hand 
but why be afraid of hate, it is only there 
think of filth, is it really awesome 
neither is hate 
don't be shy of unkindness, either 
it's cleansing and allows you to be direct 
like an arrow that feels something 
 
out and out meanness, too, lets love breathe 
you don't have to fight off getting in too deep 
you can always get out if you're not too scared 
 
an ounce of prevention's 
enough to poison the heart 
don't think of others 
until you have thought of yourself, are true 
 
all of these things, if you feel them 
will be graced by a certain reluctance 
and turn into gold 
 
if felt by me, will be smilingly deflected 
by your mysterious concern
Frank O'Hara
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/poem-hate-is-only-one-of-many-responses/