"Hal Kennedy Explains his model on behaviour and how it relates to relationships, how you can use it and more.
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Hi
My name's Hal Kennedy and I spend a lot of time working with couples to make their relationships better. And often I get asked how do you how do what on earth do we made some of the feelings that come up for us. And. I say that
It's not easy but it's certainly possible.
And what I want to do here is to outline a model that will demonstrate how the process goes and I think that I trust in being able to understand how we might manage our feelings a little better.
So the model has four parts and the first part is suggested in any given moment there is a situation. Now the situation is just what is going on in our life at any one moment. Right now I'm standing here talking to you and scribbling on this piece of paper. And whether we realize it or not we're having virtually non-stop thoughts non-stop thinking about whatever's going on in our lives. Whatever's going on right now when I write what went on yesterday a year ago. I'm going gonna go on later today tomorrow week's time and mind is just scaling back and forth. Looking at. Different situations that are happening now or
Are going to happen or have. Some of the thinking is quite simple.
It just describes what's going on or what it is that we have to go on and some of the thinking attributes meaning to the situation that this is really important.
The spot because if we accept that our thinking attributes meaning to the situation that's kind of suggesting that nothing really has any meaning of its own other than what else sometimes crazy humans attribute to it.
So depending on the meaning that they're thinking places on whatever's going on in our life that generates these things.
So this model is the area to show that our emotions our feelings get generated not by what goes on in our lives so that they get generated by the thinking we do about what goes on in our life...
